How do you deal with birthdays in your family?
In Brazil in my growing up years birthdays was the most important date in a child's life, as soon as you finished your party (if you had one) you would be counting the months for the next one.
Since I have had children I notice that this isn't something that only "brazilian" children do, but all children, at least in our house it is like that, I hear about birthdays all year around, and I happen to have about 5 people having birthday very close together, right near Christmas and new year,
Not always easy to follow traditions when you are so busy... You see, my house has been in a state of calamity ever since my last baby was born, which was exactly 1 year ago,for the past 6 weeks I have had my mind on my health issues, while trying to get organized so I could make Kimberly her first cake,! I am so glad that this is her first birthday, she wont remember that I almost broke a tradition because of time.
So yesterday I only started baking at around 7pm... can you believe it? we were singing happy birthday at 9pm way past everyone's bed time. But it was nice, I am glad I've done it, no tradition broken there.
I think it is so nice to have little family traditions, we like giving our children breakfast in bed on their birthday, we have been doing this for years, now they usually order the night before every thing they want to have for breakfast. ~It is nice to see them looking forward to a cup of hot chocolate or something simple like that, I think it is more the fact that it is something especially for that particular child and that makes them feel special.
Do you have family traditions?
Here are some of the Kinsella house hold tradition:
1. We have all our meals together. or at least try to have Dinner together, certains days a week Dave is working out of the home so we will have breakfast and dinner together. We started this since we got married that it is so normal, unless every one is around the table no one starts eating. :)
2.We usually put the children to bed about 3 hours before we go to bed, we like having the evening to watch a movie, talk, work online, or just chill out in a quiet place! :)
3.It doesn't happen every night, but when I put the baby to bed, I sing in Portuguese to the children while they are in bed on the dark. or I tell a made up story. They LOVE it! and get very up set when I say I wont be doing any of the two.
4. The children usually wake us up, way before we would like to be up! It is weird has become a little tradition where we wait for them to come to our bed, except on sunday, because sundays I need to be up first.
5.Had to come just after the last, we usually are late for church!!! Horrible tradition I know, we are working on that one... pray for us!!! it shouldn't be a tradition. :)
6.We like to pray before our meals,every day, 3 times a day.
7. On our anniversary or Valentines day The children make home made cards and make breakfast in bed for us.
These are few of our traditions, I know some are not really traditions but they are good info about us.
Yesterday Kimberly was 1 year old, tomorrow we will be 11 years married, Christmas eve Amy is 10 years old, on the 29th Dave is 32,... then January another 2 children... tell you, my baking skills is improving a lot since I have become a mam!
I was almost forgetting, I was in hospital again this week and my hormones where way down and we were quite please with that, things happened naturally and I will not need medication. Thanks be to God!
Love you all, Talk soon!
Ps: I will post some photos of the baby tomorrow!
Friday, December 5, 2014
Friday, November 28, 2014
To be Sad is not Depression!
Sometimes I feel sad. Do you?
I feel sad when I receive bad news, sad when someone that is dear to me goes through a tough time, sad if my children are sick, sad if my hubby treats me in a way that I feel is unfair... the list could be endless. We all get sad for one thing or another.
I think as a mother sadness is something that is quite normal, you are not sad all the time, but at least once a day you might feel a bit sad, if you say something to your child you think you shouldn't have, if you weren't able to give the attention you thought they needed. Anyway, just wanted to make a little point.
We have to stop assuming someone is depressed or is getting depressed just because they feel down or sad. Depression is this sickness that everyone is afraid of. I am not saying depression doesn't exist, believe me I know it exits, I lived my whole childhood with a mother who suffered with depression, and she really suffered! It is hard going, I have a lot of compassion for her or anyone who suffers with depression, they are often misunderstood and a lot of times people's reaction to it makes the matter worse.
Here I am writing this with 3 little ones running around the kitchen, singing along to Frozen songs on the stereo. Can I be sad in that setting? No!! I am not sad this very moment, but I was 30 minutes ago, when the house was quiet and I was wondering about my health and waiting for the doctor to call me back with the results from my blood tests. And that's fear more than sadness. Fear of the unknown. Fear of serious illness. Fear of maybe not being around for my children and husband.
Am I depressed? Of course not! People forget there are times where it is okay to be worried, to be sad, to be happy. Being a mother of 7 doesn't make me immune to those situations, I am still a human filled with emotions that I can't avoid. In an ideal world I want to be the strongest woman there is, where nothing affects me, but in the real world I am a real person, I love little simple things in life, they make me smile. but some days I get up set because of little things too. We all do that!
I am writing all this just because I am going through a though time for the past month or so.
If you don't follow me on Facebook you probably don't know that I was 7 weeks pregnant at the end of October, but I started to bleed and went to the hospital to get it checked. I was surprised to find out that my womb was empty, my first few scans were showing something on my left tube, they decided to just keep an eye on it as I wasn't in pain, I was booked to go to the hospital once a week, and have been doing so for the past 5 weeks, and almost every single week the diagnosis has slightly changed. My tube was clear on the second week but then in the last few scans they have found something that looks like a sac in my uterus, it is empty but the doctors are concerned by the fact that it is near my c-section scar, they call it Ectopic Cesarean Scar Pregnancy. Until yesterday the doctor and I had an agreement that because I felt well, my bloods were not too bad and I was bleeding, we would decid to wait and see if it dissolves by itself. But from last week to yesterday there was no change in the size and position. Even though I have been bleeding for the past 2 weeks there has been no change, and that concerns all of us.
They are now considering treating it, but I have asked for another week, to see if my body does it by itself. As I write here I am waiting for that phone call from the doctor to tell me if my blood results are okay or not. They check every week to see if the pregnancy hormones go down, but so far they have been like a roller-coaster. If there is nothing alive inside why are my hormones going up?
Anyway, all that does make me upset and sad. Worried a bit just by the fact that the doctors are not very confident about what it is, so I feel I am not sure I should trust them.
Yes, I am sad by the thought that I might have lost a little life, another little blessing that would have been a loving addition to our family. NO matter how many children one has, it is ALWAYS going to be sad to lose a baby!
I know I have 7 children, all healthy and bright, but that doesn't change the importance of the one gone! I love dearly this one that I will meet in heaven one day, I know he or she is now enjoying God's presence, but I am SAD! not depressed but sad. Grieving is needed, is healthy and shouldn't be looked as a weakness.
May we all enjoy life with all the emotions it brings!
I feel sad when I receive bad news, sad when someone that is dear to me goes through a tough time, sad if my children are sick, sad if my hubby treats me in a way that I feel is unfair... the list could be endless. We all get sad for one thing or another.
I think as a mother sadness is something that is quite normal, you are not sad all the time, but at least once a day you might feel a bit sad, if you say something to your child you think you shouldn't have, if you weren't able to give the attention you thought they needed. Anyway, just wanted to make a little point.
We have to stop assuming someone is depressed or is getting depressed just because they feel down or sad. Depression is this sickness that everyone is afraid of. I am not saying depression doesn't exist, believe me I know it exits, I lived my whole childhood with a mother who suffered with depression, and she really suffered! It is hard going, I have a lot of compassion for her or anyone who suffers with depression, they are often misunderstood and a lot of times people's reaction to it makes the matter worse.
Here I am writing this with 3 little ones running around the kitchen, singing along to Frozen songs on the stereo. Can I be sad in that setting? No!! I am not sad this very moment, but I was 30 minutes ago, when the house was quiet and I was wondering about my health and waiting for the doctor to call me back with the results from my blood tests. And that's fear more than sadness. Fear of the unknown. Fear of serious illness. Fear of maybe not being around for my children and husband.
Am I depressed? Of course not! People forget there are times where it is okay to be worried, to be sad, to be happy. Being a mother of 7 doesn't make me immune to those situations, I am still a human filled with emotions that I can't avoid. In an ideal world I want to be the strongest woman there is, where nothing affects me, but in the real world I am a real person, I love little simple things in life, they make me smile. but some days I get up set because of little things too. We all do that!
I am writing all this just because I am going through a though time for the past month or so.
If you don't follow me on Facebook you probably don't know that I was 7 weeks pregnant at the end of October, but I started to bleed and went to the hospital to get it checked. I was surprised to find out that my womb was empty, my first few scans were showing something on my left tube, they decided to just keep an eye on it as I wasn't in pain, I was booked to go to the hospital once a week, and have been doing so for the past 5 weeks, and almost every single week the diagnosis has slightly changed. My tube was clear on the second week but then in the last few scans they have found something that looks like a sac in my uterus, it is empty but the doctors are concerned by the fact that it is near my c-section scar, they call it Ectopic Cesarean Scar Pregnancy. Until yesterday the doctor and I had an agreement that because I felt well, my bloods were not too bad and I was bleeding, we would decid to wait and see if it dissolves by itself. But from last week to yesterday there was no change in the size and position. Even though I have been bleeding for the past 2 weeks there has been no change, and that concerns all of us.
They are now considering treating it, but I have asked for another week, to see if my body does it by itself. As I write here I am waiting for that phone call from the doctor to tell me if my blood results are okay or not. They check every week to see if the pregnancy hormones go down, but so far they have been like a roller-coaster. If there is nothing alive inside why are my hormones going up?
Anyway, all that does make me upset and sad. Worried a bit just by the fact that the doctors are not very confident about what it is, so I feel I am not sure I should trust them.
Yes, I am sad by the thought that I might have lost a little life, another little blessing that would have been a loving addition to our family. NO matter how many children one has, it is ALWAYS going to be sad to lose a baby!
I know I have 7 children, all healthy and bright, but that doesn't change the importance of the one gone! I love dearly this one that I will meet in heaven one day, I know he or she is now enjoying God's presence, but I am SAD! not depressed but sad. Grieving is needed, is healthy and shouldn't be looked as a weakness.
May we all enjoy life with all the emotions it brings!
Wednesday, November 26, 2014
My life today
My 4 eldest children have just left to go to school, the 3 youngest are watching Peppa pig in the living room, and I am here wondering when Dave is going to be back and if he is buying the coffee filter that I need to have my coffee for breakfast. I could be cleaning and tidying but I need my breakfast, so I thought I could write while I wait. I hate when we run out of coffee filters!
This is my first post in this blog, if you just got here and are wondering who is this person talking about her coffee... Well, I am Daniela, Brazilian, wife of an Irish guy and we have 7 children!!!
A lot of people ask me if I had ever imagined that one day I would be having this life, and I can tell you that no way in a million years could I ever have imagined that one day I would be here sitting in this messy kitchen, with an 11 month old baby screaming at me to be carried. A smell comes to me... hmm... poo, poo to be changed. When I consider the fact that I have done the same (changed nappies) for the past 10 years. I think; NO, I had never imagined that one day I would be driving a 13 seater mini-bus, that I would have married an Irish man, that I would live in Ireland for longer than 2 years.. And most of all, that one day I would have had 7 beautiful children. Oh my!!! Am I blessed or what?
Some may think that this is crazy and I can guarantee you that they are right, this life is a bit crazy alright! But I would change it for nothing in this world.
Now I will just write a few facts of the reality of my life:
1. I can count on one hand how many full nights sleep I've had over the past 10 years!
2. I can't remember the day when myself and Dave had the full bed for ourselves for a full night.
3. My house is, most of the time, in a big loving mess. :)
4. I love sitting in the living room watching Peppa pig, or things of the sort, with the little ones.
5. Even though I love my babies and I would have more if I could, I really dislike pregnancy and, believe it or not, out of the 7 pregnancies only number 4 was easy, if you can call any pregnancy easy. :)
6.Every day when I wake up (usually very tired) I tell myself that I need to go to bed early, but after I put the children to bed, I find lot of interesting things to do, like; go on the internet,watch a movie with Dave,call my family in Brazil,have a long shower... endless lovely little things that can't really be done with 7 happy children around. You know what I mean by happy , right???? NOISY!!!
7.I have breastfed all of my babies, and still doing so with my youngest. I love breastfeed but when they become so attached to it I find it hard going.
8.We have homeschooled our children up to March 2014, but with the number 7 arriving and my health was very poor, we felt we needed a break from full time homeschooling so we have enrolled them in a small country school near by our home. They like it, but often ask to go back to homeschool.
9. Our lives have changed a lot for the past 7 years during this time our family have experienced the joy of making new friends and the sadness with losing some because of difference in opinions and belief.
10. Our wedding anniversary is in the beginning of December, we will be 11 years married, and we are more in love now than we were back in 2003, and that my friends is a BLESSING!!!
Those are just few facts about me and my family. Hope you follow us and leave comments.
I will try to share often!
Have a good day.
PS/ Dave arrived brought the coffee filter and now I am ready for my morning routine: try to tidy up with 3 little ones on my legs!!! :) The joys of Motherhood!
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